The old joke is to think about what would happen if you answered the question sincerely, how you did it before answering a colleague`s question or a small request. They`d be sorry, he or she had asked! So who would be rude? In this case, one could say that the person who was assigned in the answer to a superficial question was rude. If someone is rude, especially when they make personal comments about you, it`s easy to get upset. But you have a choice of how you react. Take away the power of their incivility by deciding to treat it as their problem, not your problem. Most definitions of “rough” vary from person to person. I find brutality rude, while others perceive it as a natural and refreshing mode. When I say “suddenly,” I am talking about a person who does not care about greetings or final greetings. I like “Hello,” “Please,” “Thank you” and “Goodbye.” As long as a communication, verbal or written, has these elements, I am happy. Don`t let incivility make you react with more of the same.
The best way to defuse rude behaviour is to remain friendly and helpful, to give the other one a chance to calm down and adapt his behavior to her. Some incivilities are a simple case of bad manners. But often, a person who is rude to you does so because they feel frustrated by something — and if you have the power to resolve their frustration, you can see them go from incivility to gratitude in seconds. A word of warning, but: only provide help if you can provide it immediately, as an offer of help “later” can add to their feelings of frustration. Rude way of speaking inappropriately involves a person`s participation in a conversation with crude phrases, such as closing or with a tone of voice that shows a lack of respect for the other person. A coarse tone can, of course, amplify crude remarks or nominally contradict polite language. A rude person may interrupt a speaker to indicate that the first speaker does not matter. If there was only one way to get all the rude people to live together on an island, we wouldn`t have had to deal with it! On the other hand, some people think I`m rude because I don`t like small conversations when they`re forced. That means I wouldn`t ask an employee how he`s doing when I go over to borrow the notebook, or if I have a question about a common project. I`d smile. say “Hello”; ask my question with a “please”; Say “thank you” and walk away.
Is that rude? But at the same time, I`ve already begun to see that gratuitous references to harassment create a bit of “little boy who cried the wolf” phenomena. In other words, if children and parents misproport the incivility and behavioural behaviours of harassment — whether we just have conversations or draw attention to their short-term discomfort — we all run the risk of being so sick and tired of hearing the word that this real subject of life and death among young people loses its urgency as quickly as it becomes important. One of my relatives (whose name would be rude to me) often looks at my curly red hair up and down before learning in a soft tone: “Have you ever thought about dyeing your hair?” or “I think you look so much more refined when you straighten your hair, Sign.” This member of the doting family thinks she is helping me. The rest of the people in the room are delighted with their audacity, and I have to wonder if it would be okay for me to be a brunette. Their comments may sting, but if I remember they come from a place of love — in their heads — it helps me remember what to do with the Council… Specific actions, considered polite or rude, vary considerably depending on location, time and context. Differences in social role, gender, social class, religion and cultural identity can affect the adequacy of a particular behaviour. Therefore, behaviour considered perfectly acceptable by one group of people may be considered by another as manifestly rude